What happens with your child at this age?
- Child develops a deeper understanding of individuality of each person’s body, its development.
- He’s happy about the body and accepts it. Understands the principle of moral and privacy.
- Experiences love, hate and jealousy towards both genders. Not always he knows what to do with these emotions.
- Becomes socially active, more talkative, adapts to situations better, accepts rules, starts to understand them.
- Child’s independency gets stronger, he’s more capable to do things without the help of others.
- Understands the circle of life, death.
- Understand that not everyone is a good person. But he shouldn’t yet be afraid of all the strangers.
What could your child ask or do?
- Child could ask you detailed questions about differences in human bodies, about sexuality. Kids tend to ask and explain these things to one another as well.
- Goes to the toilet without the help of others. Practices in showing emotions and understanding other people. Friendships become very important. Many children are also very serious about their crushes.
- Observes, imitates, rejects. With certainty discovers new places, sometimes wants to be in a lap to feel safe.
- Drawings, games and things that your child says often include some sexual detail: jokes, sayings, swearing.
- Recognises values and are interested in them. Possibly wonders about differences in cultures, genders, age.
- Can have nightmares that make him go to parents’ bed at night. Possibly is scared of strangers or being alone outside.
- Even when he’s with friends, practices in defending his rights and safety.
What should be done to support your child?
- Teach your child to respect differences, equality, uniqueness and everyone’s body. Give him appropriate information about what it means to be man, woman and human.
- Bring your child up in a positive atmosphere. Support good touch, do it yourself. Teach him that every part of body is important.
- Teach your child that sexuality and love are good things. Teach him to recognise emotions, to shown them. Avoid complicated adult words to group and characterise his crushes. Help him manage his emotions.
- Talk to your child. Respond to his manifestations. Be close and supportive.
- Allow your child to meet new and different people. Tell him how a good or bad touch make others feel.
- Explain that he can choose his closest friends and he can decide who is allowed to touch him. Tell him that a touch shouldn’t be unpleasant. Teach him safety measures: to say “no”, walk away, tell an adult he trusts about what had happened. Tell him that a good touch has positive effect.
- Listen to your child with patience, give him answers about sexual intercourse, childbirth etc. depending on his age. Create a safe and opened atmosphere. Teach him appropriate words.
- Teach your child rules about privacy and good behaviour. Not everything must be showed to others. Raise your kid in a way that he respects equality.
- Teach him his rights and attitude: my body belongs to me! Tell him about dangerous adults, teach him safety measures. Show him that you support it when he asks questions. Child’s right to be safe is a responsibility of adults.