Your 13-year-old son tells you that all the guys in his class say they’ve already had sex. “Am I the only person in the world who hasn’t?”
Average age of teenagers starting to have sex in Latvia is 17. It means that it’s highly unlikely that your son is the only person in his class who hasn’t had sex. Tell him that it is quite normal. Explain that peer pressure can lead teenagers to embellish their sex lives – or invent them entirely if they are non-existent. Your son shouldn’t feel rushed to have sex when he’s not ready, and definitely not just to “keep up” with his classmates. Choosing to wait until he is older or is in a mature, loving relationship can be a positive choice.
“You’re unlikely to be the only guy in your class who is a virgin. Some people like to brag about having sex and others make things up because they don’t want to feel like they’re left out. Don’t feel pressured into having sex, especially not by your mates. Ignore their questions or tell them that you don’t feel the need to discuss your sex life. They don’t need to know all the details if you don’t want them to.”
“Those people who brag most loudly about having sex are probably just trying to hide the fact that they haven’t done it. Choosing whether to have sex or not is a very personal decision. It mustn’t be connected with the choices and experiences of your friends. If you feel under pressure when friends ask about your experience, just say to them not to worry about you. Tell then you’re having a great time and you don’t feel the need to tell the world about it.”